1 Give back.
There is an astute knowingness
in understanding that we all have a limited perspective or lens. I have one,
you have one and everyone who walks this earth has a limited perspective. And
for a great many years, we as a collective have convinced ourselves that our
differences are a hindrance, when in reality our differences are the very thing
that makes each of us uniquely talented in ways other people are not. When we
honor these differences and celebrate them for their uniqueness, we open up an
entirely new kaleidoscope of possibilities we might not otherwise be able to
see.
If everyone asked, “How can I
help?” as opposed to “What can I get?” we would start to see a much different
world take shape around us.
The universe aligns its bounty
for a generous heart. We must take that first step toward serving the greater
good. This is the greatest act of service we can offer. When we elevate one, we
elevate all, and soon all of our common interests are met. Only then can we
begin to transform the world. It is only then the better world we dream of
becomes a reality.
It’s up to us to offer a
helping hand to those struggling to climb the ladder. We stand on each other’s
shoulders to elevate us to our ultimate accomplishments. This is a testament to
a new tomorrow. We must clasp each other’s hands and take that first step
together. It’s a step that every person, organization or institution can take
together—if only we change our lens from competition to cooperation. From
receiving to giving.
2 Surround Yoursel With People Smarter Than You.
Regardless of all your hard
work, unique talent, good timing or good luck, success is largely a factor of
the people you make a part of your journey.
When you first start, you
pursue like-minded people in your social circle. But things change. You mature.
Your circle widens as your interests shift from social to professional.
Although you are initially drawn to people like yourself, now you start to
gravitate to people who can offer alternative perspectives—the more unrelated
and diverse the individuals, the more opportunity to fill in the gaps of your
limited experience, which lowers your risk.
You must network, pay attention
and seek out people who not only know more but are willing to challenge and
push you. Because few things are as important as gaining new perspectives. It’s
easy to get lost in your ideas. Alternate perspectives can eliminate the blind
spots and bring you down from the clouds.
3 Find Mentor.
Mentorship is a service. How
can you help this person? You need to care more about their goals than you care
about your own. Actually, your number one goal is to help them with their
goals.
Under promise and over perform.
When you get an assignment, blow them away. Do more than expected. Make their
life as easy as possible. Get them excited to work with you more.
Never stop seeking help from
those who are where you want to be. At the same time, don’t neglect those who
could use your help.
Never let a goal become more
important than helping people. Help others generously, abundantly. Help others
without expectation of a return favor. Serving others will turn you into a
mentor yourself. And you will always find more joy in helping others succeed
than in achieving your own success.
4 Be Influencer.
Influencers
focus on helping one another without expecting anything in return. They give
and balance with their own self-interests to make giving a win-win for all
parties. Adam Grant, author of the best-selling book Give and Take: Why
Helping Others Drives Your Success, told me that “givers are not just
philanthropists or volunteers… but people who enjoy helping others and often do
it with no strings attached.” Grant explains that givers have the greatest
opportunity to both succeed and fail in business because givers can often be
taken advantage of, but the most successful givers thrive when they have their
own self-interests aligned with giving.
5 Celebrate other’s success.
What does it mean to be just as happy for the
success of others as for our own? It’s a matter of attitude. Adopting a
praising and loving attitude will help you bask in the success of those you
know and with whom you feel a personal connection. This might be difficult at
times, but it’s a great way to help us lead more positive lives and get more in
return.
By being courageous and selfless enough to embrace
others’ success, we get the benefit of greater satisfaction. We feel fulfilled
instead of bitter. For example, your best friend gets a job offer at a great
company and you don’t know how to feel. You might feel happy but conflicted,
especially if you feel less successful at the moment. But having the courage to
celebrate your friend’s success as your own can lead to personal satisfaction
when you think, OK, I now know someone who works at X company! Your
inner circle of affiliations and acquaintances grows, and you can feel
appropriately satisfied by that.
Not only does your inner circle of affiliations
grow with others’ success, but you can also potentially find personal success.
For example, say your best friend’s company is advertising for other positions.
Now you have an internal referral that might benefit your own career should you
desire working with the same company.
Beyond seizing an available opportunity where
possible, our sense of embracing others’ achievements helps to expand our own
willpower. American football player and coach Vince Lombardi said, “The
difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength,
nor a lack of knowledge, but a lack of will.” Our own will can be awakened, in
turn, when we see the success of others.
6 Spread positivity.
In director Christopher Nolan’s
film Inception, Leonardo DiCaprio plays a man named Cobb who uses futuristic
military technology to steal people’s corporate secrets by digging into their subconscious
while they sleep. Then a secretive entrepreneur named Saito hires Cobb to do
something a little different: plant an idea—inception—instead of stealing one.
For inception to be successful,
the idea that Cobb plants has to be simple, emotional and positive. As he
explains to his team, “The subconscious is motivated by emotion, right? Not
reason. We need to find a way to translate this into an emotional concept….
Positive emotion trumps negative emotion every time.” For Cobb, positive
realities are much easier to transfer to others than negative ones because they
create lasting change.
Out of the fantasy world and
into the world of neuroscience and positive psychology, the research supports
Cobb’s claim. Over the past several years, researchers have been investigating
how perceptions and mindsets can be transferred to others. And as it turns out,
the three best strategies for transferring positive genius to others are not
that different from the ones Cobb employed
7 Find your motivation.
Successful people don’t become
that way overnight. What most people see at a glance—happiness, wealth, a great
career, purpose—is the result of hard work and hustle over time.
To be successful, you have to
use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, to get a little bit
closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with a busy
schedule, next to impossible. But the best part is, the more you accomplish,
the more you’ll want to do, the higher you’ll want to reach. So as long as you
have the hunger for success, you will always have the power within you to
achieve it.
Use your ambition, drive and
desire to make it happen.